After having one of those days where I just should have stayed in bed, I pondered my life both then and now and decided to make a side-by-side comparison of what I wanted from life or did in my twenties and what I want from life or do now that I’m almost 43.
Things change and priorities shift as you get older. When you have kids they change even more. As a responsible adult sometimes fun gets put on the back-burner and a once clear-head become non-existent. I miss that clear-head.
When I was 20 I was living it up in Paris on my parents’ dime, footloose and fancy free. My only concern was where the next best soirée would be held and who was going to be on the guest list of my next party. At 43 I worry about paying my bills, money in general, the health and well-being of my family, my health, taking care of my cats, going to work and the list continues.
So let’s take this point by point so we examine the age gap and maybe now understand what our parents went through with us as cranky teenagers and crankier twenty somethings.
- 20: I wanted a hot guy with a hot car. Hondas need not apply.
40: I want my hot guy with his hot car.
- 20: I drove a fast 1978 Camaro LT, 350 4-barrel with louvers, air shocks, fat tires and a spoiler. I had a lead-foot.
40: I drive a fast BMW convertible with fat tires and I still have a lead-foot.
- 20: I worked at TSV Video (when I was in the US), watched movies all day, drank wine, flirted with the customers, watched and recommended porno, loved my boss Stan and used to arrange Gumby-like toys in sexual positions on his desk every night. I rarely had to deal with any bullsh**. My biggest responsibility was making change and setting the alarm.
40: I work as a teacher, enlighten impressionable minds all day, drown in paperwork, drink water or Crystal Light, recommend places to visit in Paris and I’m not commenting on the boss. I constantly have to deal with bullsh** from EVERYONE. My BIG responsibility is other people’s children.
- 20: I had a dog. My parents took care of her and I played with her.
40: I have 2 cats and I take care of them: butt wiping, baths, litter box scooping, trips to the vet, cuddling partner, Mommy, playmate.
- 20: I pounded shots. Many shots. Body shots.
40: I sip good wine. A lot of wine. All kinds of wine.
- 20: I tried to figured out new ways to get away from my parents.
40: I wish I still had both my mom and dad and now love spending time with my Daddy.
- 20: I had a Mandee Charge Card and no debt.
40: I have too many credit cards to count and debt up the wazoo.
- 20: I weighed 120 pounds and ate anything I wanted.
40: I’m always on a diet!
- 20: I would stay out all night and party.
40: I will stay out all night and party but try to get home by 4 so I don’t piss off the husband.
- 20: I wanted to be a translator for the U.N. or a big-wig in the international business world.
40: I want to keep my teaching job and hope my pension will still be there.
- 20: I slathered on baby oil so I could get that deep, dark tan.
40: I slather on sun block and skin repairing cream to try to undo the sun damage of yesteryear.
- 20: I had big, whorey hair.
40: I have big, whorey hair.
- 20: Fifty dollars was a lot to spend on shoes.
40: Now I try not to spend over $500.
- 20: I had no kids.
40: I still have no kids (by choice).
- 20: I never wanted to go home.
40: I can’t wait to get home.
- 20: I lived in France and loved it.
40: I want to live in France and I still love it.
- 20: I had a boyfriend who wanted me to look like a Barbie doll.
40: I have a husband who wants me to look like a Barbie doll.
- 20: Dressing like a whore was always an option.
40: Dressing like a whore is a weekend only option.
- 20: I went to the gym almost every day.
40: I stare at all the gym equipment in my house and dust it off once and a while.
- 20: I stared at myself in the mirror and thought about how hot I looked.
40: I stare at myself in the mirror and notice fine lines and aging and think about when I can get my first facelift.
Some things have changed and some things have stayed the same. I believe age is only a number (even though it keeps creeping around like a bad case of crabs) but with age come wisdom and knowledge. I’ve heard before that youth is wasted on the young. I believe it now. If we only knew then what we know now, we could have ruled the world.
I don’t know about you but I’m not done yet and I still plan on ruling the world.