Separate Bedrooms: The New Retro Modern?

A couple of years ago my husband and I had a huge fight (probably over something stupid) and he moved into the spare bedroom.

To this day he drifts in and out of our boudoir for various reasons:  sex, sleep, intimacy, his bed is not made….  Frankly, I am so used to sleeping alone (well not alone – with 1, 2 or 3 cats) that when he decides to invade my personal space (Isn’t that what marriage is?) without warning, I get absolutely NO SLEEP.

By the time I get acclimated to a warm, non-furry body next to me, he’s gone again because of his crazy work schedule.

Back to the lack of sound sleep….

Girls… you know what I’m talking about.  The burping, farting, snoring and general restlessness of a man is difficult  to look forward to.

My friend tries to convince me that it’s part of marriage and she’ll never go to sleep  without her husband next to her.  I agree – but once you get used to the less smelly, less noisy version of sleep, it’s hard to go back.  I already have to deal with the cats and my own ADHD.  Damn!  I take to 2 Benadryl every night so so I can fall asleep at a decent hour.

I am not a cuddler.  I am always warm and can’t stand the idea of someone snuggled up against me.  Maybe I’m a guy in a chick’s body?  Who knows!

It definitely got me thinking about the past and the practice of separate bedrooms.  My parents always slept in the same bed, but I think the kings and queens of Europe had the right idea.

Are separate bedrooms the new retro modern?

I think so.  Right or wrong.  Good or bad.  I think if it works for you, go for it.  What do you think?  I’d love to hear from you.

© 2011 J. H-M and CultureChoc2010.

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2 responses to “Separate Bedrooms: The New Retro Modern?

  1. I do a combination. Some nights I sleep with my husband, most of the time along with kids too and others I sleep with the dog on the couch which I love. Then there are nights I tell my kids they have to sleep with the dog so my husband and I can just not have a kid between us. Those nights are rare though. Whatever the sleeping arrangments it doesn’t affect our marriage or our sex life. I do like to cuddle at times but only for so long as I like my own space and also become overheated or my legs cramp up, etc…. I say do whatever works!!!

  2. I do a combination. Some nights I sleep with my husband, most of the time along with kids too and others I sleep with the dog on the couch which I love. Then there are nights I tell my kids they have to sleep with the dog so my husband and I can just not have a kid between us. Those nights are rare though. Whatever the sleeping arrangments it doesn’t affect our marriage or our sex life. I do like to cuddle at times but only for so long as I like my own space and also become overheated or my legs cramp up, etc…. I say do whatever works!!!

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